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School Yard Bully


Sirdeaner Walker, who has survived domestic violence, homelessness, and breast cancer, knew death could come suddenly -- but she could not have predicted it would find her 11-year-old son first.

Carl Joseph Walker-Hoover was a sixth-grader at New Leadership Charter School in Springfield, Mass. There, many of his classmates were initially strangers, as few of his friends from Alfred Glickman Elementary followed him.

On April 6, Sirdeaner Walker came home, walked up the stairs to the second floor of her home, and saw her son suspended from a support beam in the stairwell, swaying slightly in the air, an extension cord wrapped around his neck, according to police. He apologized in a suicide note, told his mother that he loved her, and left his video games to his brother.

Walker said her son had been the victim of bullying since the beginning of the school year, and that she had been calling the school since September, complaining that her son was mercilessly teased. He played football, baseball, and was a boy scout, but a group of classmates called him gay and teased him about the way he dressed. They ridiculed him for going to church with his mother and for volunteering locally.

"It's not just a gay issue," Walker said. "It's bigger. He was 11 years old, and he wasn't aware of his sexuality. These homophobic people attach derogatory terms to a child who's 11 years old, who goes to church, school, and the library, and he becomes confused. He thinks, Maybe I'm like this. Maybe I'm not. What do I do? "

His birthday, April 17, falls this year on the 13th National Day of Silence, a day on which individuals observe vows of silence for students bullied at school.

But instead of silence, Walker wants action from the school, which she said continuously ignored her, chalking the situation up to student immaturity. She said that every day her son left for school, he walked into a "combat zone" assigned to him because of his inner-city address. But he would not point a finger at specific classmates for fear he'd be called a "snitch."

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Reader Comments
  • Name: Concerned Parent
    Date posted: 7/9/2009 12:15:00 PM
    Hometown: Hamden County, MA

    Comment:

    The problem with enforcing any law is that the monster children who are responsible for the teasing are usually the children of school administration, teachers, coaches or children of friends of the previously listed. My children have had a tough time in school and during sporting events with these type of children and complianing usually results in an unbelievalbe manipulation of facts which always paints the victim as the troublemaker. I am left to advise my children to ignore as much as they can. How can we solve this problem when we are not only facing mean relentless children, but the adults who refuse to address the problem?

  • Name: Shelley
    Date posted: 7/8/2009 10:55:00 PM
    Hometown: Portland

    Comment:

    I admire you for being his advocate. I watched my nephew go through some of this exact same torment and it broke my heart. Thank God he persevered and made it through those very tough adolescent years. He's an amazing young man now with a huge/ compassionate heart. You inspire me to speak out and do more about public awareness. It's stories like yours that give me the strength to speak out when I see wrong-doing. I don't undertand some human behavior. But I do try to understand why young people behave the way they do. I believe they mirror their role-models. Bullies learn this from somewhere and it's often close to home. It's sad that it's these children we probably need to worry about most. To grow up with so much hatred and dislike for yourself is sad. I blame the parents. I chose to close on a high note. You clearly were an amazing mother. Your son's memory will live on and he is affecting lives in ways you will never now. Thank you for being his voice. Shelley

  • Name: DEBORAH WALKER
    Date posted: 5/21/2009 9:57:00 AM
    Hometown: MD

    Comment:

    So sorry for the lost of Carl Walker your 11 year old son. This sorry hit home for me I have a 9 year old son and we move from the inner city of NY to Md three years ago, and I know from first hand how tough it can be if your child doesn't dress or act like everyone else. One thing I can say about New York City if your in a public or charter school everyone were the same outfit to school. My be this is something that you can bring to Mass. School Broad attention. Know this wouldn't bring back Carl but may save others. I feel as if im related to you. My family is all over Springfield, Mass and when i read the story I cried it hit me so hard in my heart. FAMILY

  • Name: Robert
    Date posted: 5/15/2009 3:51:00 AM
    Hometown: Los Angeles, California

    Comment:

    If accurate, it's a very sad case of a little boy who felt he had no options in the face of the bullying. As the chant goes, "Homophobia has got to go!" and the legions of right-wing-nut anti-gay blowhards (including self-proclaimed "religious" bigots) out there bear major responsibility for bolstering a culture of intolerance. But could the parent not have tried transferring him elsewhere, or homeschooling? Such options should not have been necessary if the school authorities had been doing their jobs, but there's no indication that the parent tried those options when no results came from attempting to get the school to stop the bullying. The parent seems to have not paid careful attention, as the boy likely became increasingly disturbed/ desperate. Also, from the sketchy report, we can't rule out that it might NOT have been suicide, though foul play's unlikely. Saying this does not diminish the tragic, unnecessary loss of another promising young person.

  • Name: Stanly
    Date posted: 5/12/2009 5:11:00 PM
    Hometown: Queens,New York

    Comment:

    One of my friends bullyed somebody and he got in trouble for it. So please don't go out there in the world and bully somebode every school has to get better at not bulling other kids and its up to the kids to do that not the teachers the kids. I hope you learn from this. So please don't bully kids at all. Rest In Peace to every kid what died from getting bulled.

  • Name: Frances Poirier
    Date posted: 5/8/2009 1:20:00 AM
    Hometown: Fall River MA

    Comment:

    tears streamed down my face as I read this story. I feel so emotionally connected to the boy's mother and can hardly know how she can bear it. I'm hoping that this story brings awareness of the bullying that goes on in the schools and more is done about it nation wide. For the world to be unbearable to an eleven year old boy is scary. As a parent with grandchildren in middle school I really don't think it is an all gay issue. I hear girls who aren't skinny, are virgins or who simply don't want to get involved with people who are trouble get taunted and made fun of almost everyday. That is why I am around McDonalds to watch over my grandkids. Copies of this story are being made to show teachers how real this problem is.

  • Name: fRANCES a. pOIRIER
    Date posted: 5/8/2009 1:06:00 AM
    Hometown: fALL rIVER ma

    Comment:

    tears streamed down my cheeks as I read this emotional story. FOR THE WORLD TO LOOK SO BAD TO AN 11 YEAR OLD IS PATHETIC. BULLYING HAS GONE ON FOR YEARS IN OUR SCHOOLS AND i HOPE THIS STORY BRINGS IT TO LIGHT. NO MOTHER SHOULD HAVE TO FIGHT THE SYSTEM ALONE FOR HERCHILD WHO IS STILL NOT EVEN A TEEN AGER. i DON'T EVEN THINK IT'S ALL A GAY ISSUE. AT THAT AGE MOST BOYS AREN'T IN TO THEIR SEXUALITY AT SCHOOL UNLESS THEY ARE BEING HARASSED BY MEAN SPIRITED KIDS WHO HAVE SEEN ALOT OF ANGER AND HATE IN THEIR HOMES...AND LET IT OUT ON POOR DEFENSLESS CHILDREN. IWOULD BE PROUD TO HAVE HIM AS A SON.

  • Name: Patrice
    Date posted: 4/26/2009 5:42:00 PM
    Hometown: San Francisco

    Comment:

    It is sad, but then again like someone said it as long as being gay won't be considered as "normal" or gays won't be seen as equal by society, these things will be bound to happen. My heart goes out to the family, and shame on the school for not helping, and shame on those parents for raising their kids to be so intolerant.

  • Name: debbie jaynes
    Date posted: 4/25/2009 10:55:00 PM
    Hometown: long beach.ca.

    Comment:

    i would like to hear a National disscussion about the effects of anti-gay rights parents and churches attitudes on their children.

  • Name: Leigh
    Date posted: 4/21/2009 11:13:00 PM
    Hometown: Minneapolis

    Comment:

    To Lisa in Toronto: How in heaven's name did you decide that the "GLBT" had ANYTHING to do with this?? The school is not run by the GLBT. If anything, the GLBT is a colateral victim. The blame belongs on the bullies and the school. If nothing is done, it will only happen again.

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