Continental promo
|| Home > First Person  ||
< Back Comments (141)Post a Comment Bookmark and Share   Page: 1 | 2
 

Labor of Love

Thomas Beatie gives The Advocate a first-person account of how it feels to be pregnant and carrying a child for his wife and himself.
From The Advocate March 26, 2008
Labor of Love

To our neighbors, my wife, Nancy, and I don’t appear in the least unusual. To those in the quiet Oregon community where we live, we are viewed just as we are -- a happy couple deeply in love. Our desire to work hard, buy our first home, and start a family was nothing out of the ordinary. That is, until we decided that I would carry our child.

I am transgender, legally male, and legally married to Nancy. Unlike those in same-sex marriages, domestic partnerships, or civil unions, Nancy and I are afforded the more than 1,100 federal rights of marriage. Sterilization is not a requirement for sex reassignment, so I decided to have chest reconstruction and testosterone therapy but kept my reproductive rights. Wanting to have a biological child is neither a male nor female desire, but a human desire.

Ten years ago, when Nancy and I became a couple, the idea of us having a child was more dream than plan. I always wanted to have children. However, due to severe endometriosis 20 years ago, Nancy had to undergo a hysterectomy and is unable to carry a child. But after the success of our custom screen-printing business and a move from Hawaii to the Pacific Northwest two years ago, the timing finally seemed right. I stopped taking my bimonthly testosterone injections. It had been roughly eight years since I had my last menstrual cycle, so this wasn’t a decision that I took lightly. My body regulated itself after about four months, and I didn’t have to take any exogenous estrogen, progesterone, or fertility drugs to aid my pregnancy.

Our situation sparks legal, political, and social unknowns. We have only begun experiencing opposition from people who are upset by our situation. Doctors have discriminated against us, turning us away due to their religious beliefs. Health care professionals have refused to call me by a male pronoun or recognize Nancy as my wife. Receptionists have laughed at us. Friends and family have been unsupportive; most of Nancy’s family doesn’t even know I’m transgender.

Page: 1 | 2
Keywords:  Thomas Beatie 
Related stories from Advocate.com

Reader Comments

These comments are reproduced as written by visitors to this Web site. They have not been edited for content, grammar, or spelling. The viewpoints appearing here are those of the writer, and do not necessarily reflect the opinion or views of advocate.com, The Advocate, or its affiliates.

  • Name: Michael
    Date posted: 2009-06-12 4:28 AM
    Hometown: Gods Own State

    Comment:

    Congratulation to you Thomas and Family,and i wish and the kids a wonderful and happy future ahead


  • Name: Anna Persson
    Date posted: 2009-06-09 6:39 PM
    Hometown: Mariestad, Sweden

    Comment:

    Why can`t people leave them alone? They bring children into this world WITH LOVE! Some parents DON`T do that. You can`t deny people love and wanting to have a family. They just had their second child and I wish them lots of love and happines. (Sorry for my bad english-I`m from Sweden)


  • Name: jedidiah
    Date posted: 2009-04-03 3:24 AM
    Hometown: egypt

    Comment:

    read (romans 1) in the holy bible also (ephesians 2) god bless you


  • Name: Shannon
    Date posted: 2009-04-02 11:33 AM
    Hometown: Oregon

    Comment:

    They grow stronger by the day For others they've paved a new way It took togetherness, encouragement, and love And because of their strengths they were blessed with a bundle from above She'll grow, learn, and play And be just as courageous and also as accepting one day.


  • Name: Shannon Gale
    Date posted: 2009-04-02 11:16 AM
    Hometown: Bend, Oregon

    Comment:

    Labor of Love By Thomas Beatie broke down what I didn't understand in an open, frank, and honest way. It wasn't from a point of view that was trying to convince or change people's minds. That's probably precisely why I was able to read it in such an open-minded way and was able to learn about what I didn't understand. Perhaps in writing that book you'll achieve more than you ever imagined...


  • Name: Shannon Gale
    Date posted: 2009-04-01 11:16 AM
    Hometown: Bend, Oregon

    Comment:

    I'm not transgender, I'm not pregnant, I'm not in a gay relationship... So, none of the issues in this book relate to my personal life... However, I'm glad I read it! I went from being intrigued and a little confused or against what I didn't understand to understanding and even supporting the fight those two strong souls(Nancy and Thomas) are going through. I really wish they could read this! If it involves a consenting adult and it feels right in that person's heart and it's not hurting anyone than the choices that a person makes needs to be accepted regardless of other people's not understanding.


  • Name: LISA
    Date posted: 2009-03-28 4:02 PM
    Hometown: Belton

    Comment:

    It really outrages me,the world judges so.Two men together want to raise a child they are sick and the childs life will be deestroyed.Two woman want to have a child and its the same thing the childs life will be destroyed.A man and a woman want to have a child .the woman cant conceive the man wants to and its the same thing the childs life will be destroyed.Bcause he/she will have to tell their friends that dad carried him. I say wat difference does it make.as long as there is love and respect .Andd the child is taught this. So Thomas congraulations to you and your wife .i think it is great !


  • Name: Jeremy
    Date posted: 2009-03-25 8:05 AM
    Hometown: Concord, CA

    Comment:

    get a life and stay out of these peoples' business.


  • Name: Jim
    Date posted: 2009-03-16 2:02 PM
    Hometown: San Francisco

    Comment:

    All you people who support this are freaks. The child in now being born into a fundamentally unnatural (and wrong) situation due to no fault of her own! How can people support this?!


  • Name: jessica
    Date posted: 2009-02-17 9:38 PM
    Hometown: humble

    Comment:

    i support you 100000000000% dnt pay any attention to all the negativity people are just jelous!!! but im glad you and your wife are happyy and congrats on the baby and i watched your show on tlc and im glad you spoke out! so yeah


  • Name: Lin
    Date posted: 2009-02-08 11:34 PM
    Hometown: Malaysia

    Comment:

    Congratulations, Thomas! You got my 5-star approval rating to raise this child with your wife and be whoever you feel comfortable with. Just ignore the stupid conservatives, they are usually very judgemental.


  • Name: Brittany
    Date posted: 2009-01-31 11:37 AM
    Hometown: New York

    Comment:

    Hi Thomas, I think it's awesome, I mean who cares what people think right? You do what u want and like to do. I read that your having another baby "CONGRATULATIONS", I think it's a wonderful thing. People that don't like it should just shut up and keep it to themselves, no one cares if you think its wrong or isn't natural, obviously if hes able to carry the child its natural not matter what the reason is, stop hating on him and get a life..Thomas keep doing what u your doing if it makes you and your wife happy and tell the people who don't like it where to go. Once again Congratulations...


  • Name: Devin
    Date posted: 2009-01-28 12:36 AM
    Hometown: Logan

    Comment:

    I am currently watching your show! And i think it is beautiful what you have done! To be in love enough to do something so wonderful for your wife is amazing! No matter what anyone says...you and your wife are in love..and the baby will be in a loving enviroment! i wish you both the best of luck!...your story really touched me... take care and give the baby much love becuase your unconditional love is all that baby will ever need! much love Devin


  • Name: Anna
    Date posted: 2009-01-11 8:03 PM
    Hometown: Seymour

    Comment:

    I have seen your show a lot and I asked my boyfriend if he could would he give birth. And he told me yes and who cares about what people think about it its your life and the hell with other people!!!!!!! Congrats on the new baby and you and your wife will be wonderful parents. And that is all that matters!!!


  • Name: Poffie
    Date posted: 2009-01-11 7:29 PM
    Hometown: San Antonio, TX

    Comment:

    Thomas - I have seen your show on the Discovery channel, and I have to say that I think what you have done is just wonderful. I am a female, and want very badly to have a child. Although I don't think that will ever happen to me, I am very happy to see that two wonderful and loving people were able to bring a beautiful baby girl into this world. I won't lie, I do see every side of the story...but when it comes down to it, I believe that everyone has the right to be happy, and you are taking that right into your hands and doing something about it. I congratulate you on your bravery, and courage...and hope that your family flourishes.


  • Name: Solomon
    Date posted: 2009-01-09 10:02 AM
    Hometown: Littleton, CO

    Comment:

    To Linda - Just because I have breasts and female internal organs does not make ME a woman. There is a difference between sex (one's biological designation) and gender (one's core identity, WHO someone is). If we accept that the male and female brains are different in some fundamental biological way, why can't we accept that a birth defect can cause the brain to develop one way and the body to develop another? Why would a lesbian choose to go endure the pain associated with a sex change, simply to please one "straight" partner? It doesn't make a lot of sense, does it? Let me know if you allow your vagina to define who you are - the core essence of your being - and I might be able to take your complaint seriously.


  • Name: F Moran
    Date posted: 2008-12-29 6:21 PM
    Hometown: Waterford, Ireland

    Comment:

    I have just watched your documentary on Channell 4 tv, from Ireland. At first i wasnt so sure, but I understand your desire to have a child. You both are in a loving relationship, and now have a daughter. Congratulations, the world is changing & you brought life into it Im happy for you both.


  • Name: NASWAS
    Date posted: 2008-12-26 2:28 PM
    Hometown: WORCESTER

    Comment:

    Hell Thomas, I saw your story and i would like to say that it's noboby's business what you do, if you want to go ahead and have 10 babies then that is your business. What is the difference between a gay couple adopting and you having a baby? People need to worry about starving, suffering and abused children, not about you having a healthy baby that you and your wife obviously love and will take good care of. HAPPY HOLIDAYS!


  • Name: Suzy
    Date posted: 2008-12-24 8:07 PM
    Hometown: Dayton

    Comment:

    I wish Thomas and his wife and daughter a Merry first Christmas together as a family of three and good luck with baby number two!


  • Name: Odette
    Date posted: 2008-12-21 10:21 PM
    Hometown: London

    Comment:

    Saw your documentary on Channel 4 here in the UK about Susan's birth! I'd like to say congrats to you both! Susan is a BEAUTIFUL little girl, and your next shall be as stunning! I have to say, its incredible how well you both seem to be coping with all the media and the fear of the unknown from so many in the world. In the documentary you said you hope Susan sees the uniqueness of your family as a blessing rather than a 'disability', there is nothing that could ever cause either of your children to see their family as nothing short of phenomenal! People say, the arrival of a child is a blessing, in your case this is true, but the ones who are truly blessed are your children! They have been brought into the world by the most caring, understanding, and loving parents to ever walk this earth! And they will see it themselves from a very early age! Once again, congrats to you both! And I wish your family all the happiness in the world! With fondest wishes and kindest regards, Odette x


  • Name: alie
    Date posted: 2008-12-20 7:18 PM
    Hometown: fernley

    Comment:

    i was just reading about you i think that is so cool i am on my second child and i always say to my husband i wish you colud go through what i do and have a baby or at least carry it tell the baby is ready to come but i know some people think this is just wrong but i think it is the most beautiful thing in the worldand to be the one carrying the baby for 9 months is a bond and a love so strong its crazy but i know i love it and no one can make you feel diff,.so dont worry about what people say and live your life and take care of your family and must i say you have a grate body to carry a babby you look really good i cant wait to see a pic of your family after


  • Name: fiorella
    Date posted: 2008-12-19 1:01 PM
    Hometown: London

    Comment:

    I've just watched the pregnant man documentry, and can i just say i was in awe of this amazing couple. they are so inspirational. The only thing wrong with this situation is that this beautiful baby girl is being born into a world with narrow minded people full of hate. how could people be so cruel. I'm glad that baby nancy has such a wonderful loving family around her.


  • Name: Sophie
    Date posted: 2008-12-12 5:15 AM
    Hometown: Yeovil, Somerset, England.

    Comment:

    I watched your Documentary last night, I think you are both inspirational. Your Life is a huge inspiration to other people who want to go through a sex change etc. I think you and Nancy are an adorable couple, its so nice to see a couple so in love. It makes me sick to see people abusing you, what is there problem? Its ridiculous, its your life you can do what you like as long as your happy. Your daughter is absolutly GORGEOUS! Congratulations,And Another further Congratulations on your second pregnancy! (: I hope that you continue to be so happy and Goodluck with your pregnancy. x


  • Name: Tanya Leanne
    Date posted: 2008-12-11 6:14 PM
    Hometown: Uk

    Comment:

    Congratulations To You Both Your Daughter Is Gorgeous , Just finished watching uks cutting edge documentary, though it was amazing :) people really need to give you a brake i think its gr8 what you done and should not have all the bad things said about you at all , surpisely im only 15 and just adore kids and will do anything to have my own at some stage everyone deserves to have there own biological child even You Just Wished people out there could get over themselfs and accpet it cos at the end of the day its about haveing a family nothing else , not the way it happend or weather the mother or the father carried the baby. i think your both awsome and wish you all the best for the future - Tanya Leanne


  • Name: Tanya Leanne
    Date posted: 2008-12-11 6:10 PM
    Hometown: Uk

    Comment:

    Congratulations To You Both Your Daughter Is Gorgeous , Just finished watching uks cutting edge documentary, though it was amazing :) people really need to give you a brake i think its gr8 what you done and should not have all the bad things said about you at all , surpisely im only 15 and just adore kids and will do anything to have my own at some stage everyone deserves to have there own biological child even You Just Wished people out there could get over themselfs and accpet it cos at the end of the day its about haveing a family nothing else , not the way it happend or weather the mother or the father carried the baby. i think your both awsome and wish you all the best for the future - Tanya Leanne


  • Name: Helen Lee
    Date posted: 2008-12-11 5:33 PM
    Hometown: luton UK

    Comment:

    Hi, have just viewed the documentary shown in the UK on channel 4. First let me say congrats to You and Your wife on the birth of your daughter and congrats on the expected addition. Secondly, thank you for having the courage to be so open about what is and has happened to your family. I am sorry so many of the supposedly moral up standing citizens of both the usa and other places have seen fit to disparage and abuse you and your wife. When so many children are left to die and suffer in so called "normal" hetrosexual families, that such loving parents should want to raise children should be seen as a blessing, not a curse. I wish you and yours the best of health, the best of love and the best of life. Respectfully Helen


  • Name: Katrina
    Date posted: 2008-12-08 10:26 PM
    Hometown: Schenectady

    Comment:

    I think that you & your family are very lucky because there are a lot of families that keep trying or the woman can carry for some reason & they would do what ever it takes to have a little one of there own. So who is anyone to say that your family doesnt have that same right. Good luck & congrats. on your little girl. maybe by the time she is old enough to understand the world may have a diffrent out look on all that you & your wife did to start your own family.


  • Name: felicia
    Date posted: 2008-12-02 12:15 PM
    Hometown: brownsville,tx

    Comment:

    congradulations thomas, i think it is wonderful and i think you are unique.. dont listen to what people say about you're pragnancy. i am 4 months pregnant rite now, my parents didnt approve. but i learned to not listen to what anybody says because im so excited for this baby and nobody can make me feel any diffrent about this little bundle of joy growing inside of me.. when people talks about you and you're family, just remember to think of how happy you're wife must be for you doing this for her! theres always people who talks about other people.. everyone gets talked about sometimes.. people just has to learn to not listen to other's bullshit! all the best of luck to you and you're family! `Felicia.


  • Name: Lana
    Date posted: 2008-11-28 4:16 AM
    Hometown: vancouver

    Comment:

    I just want to say congrats to the happy couple. I am so sorry and truly embarrased by our human kind. What truly remarkable people and such a loving couple. If people don`t get that, its their shit. Sorry just so upset for you guys, hope this msg makes it to you. I am your neighbor in Vancouver and have been married for five yrs, no children, we cannot get pregnant. I so hope you guys get every happiness and wish and desire you deserve. Tom you never had a chance, your little girl is so lucky. My husband also lost his Mother young , commited suicide when he was 12, no one will ever get that, not even me. I wish for your family all the love in the world and you will make it. You already did. Love Lana


  • Name: Lynn Tachick
    Date posted: 2008-11-26 8:32 PM
    Hometown: Waukesha, WI

    Comment:

    Thomas, it is the day before Thanksgiving and I ironically have just finished reading page 64 of your book, Labor of Love. On page 64, you express the heart wrenching account or your mother's death...the day before Thanksgiving. Please know that I am thinking of you as you miss her today, yesterday, tomorrow, and always.


  • Name: Crystal k
    Date posted: 2008-11-24 3:50 PM
    Hometown: Houston

    Comment:

    Thomas, Last saturday i watched you and your wifes story on the 'discovery' channel. As i listened to ya'lls words and the angry messages you two have recieved, it broke my heart. I think the choices you have made were brave, and shows how strong you are. To go and pursue what you felt you really were physically, evn at the expense of losing your family was no only brave, it was honorable. I would also like to congradulate you on your beautiful baby girl and your second pregnancy. I look into your eyes, and saw nothing but sincere kindness. That rare to see among people now days. Plus i rarely see that in a man. Again congrats and good luck with your busy, and soon to be even more, hectic life. Everytime you read an angry message, just remember that there is always someone else, like me, out there supporting you two.


  • Name: Melinda
    Date posted: 2008-11-24 1:52 AM
    Hometown: Grand Island

    Comment:

    Thomas. I am just now seeing your story on Discovery Health channel and I am so very happy for you and your wife. My family is very close-minded, but I am grateful for friends who have opened my mind to people who are bi-sexual and I believe that sex has no matter in love. I believe that if you love someone, it doesn't matter if you are of opposite sex, or same sex. Love knows no boundries. I feel for people that are so close-minded to you and your situation, and to others of similar situations. I hope that other people in the world who are trans-gender like you and are struggling with haters can find help. I support you and your wife and I wish you the best in life! Congratulations, Elmo, Nebraska


  • Name: Brittany
    Date posted: 2008-11-22 12:07 PM
    Hometown: Chaska, MN

    Comment:

    Just saw your story on Discovery Health, Thomas & Nancy. I think what everyone in the world seems to be missing here is exactly what you pointed out: wanting a biological child is not a male need or a female need, but a HUMAN need. When people adopt, they don't ask where it came from--in fact, many times nobody really knows the personal history of the biological parents. It is not only nobody's business how a couple chooses to have a baby, but it is deplorable to tell them their decisions are "wrong." How is it that so many people who claim to be so strong of moral character can be bible-thumping pro-lifers and somehow wish against you having a healthy baby girl? That's not what I would call someone who really knows their God-- that's someone who can't face the fact that gender is a social construct and DOESN'T change the wonderful people we are--and the wonderful person and loving FATHER you are, Thomas. Bless you!


  • Name: Claire
    Date posted: 2008-11-22 11:25 AM
    Hometown: Grovetown

    Comment:

    I am so happy for you. I think it is a brave thing to have a baby, especially when there are a lot of people out there who want to hurt you or call you names. I admire you and i hope that your beautiful baby girl grows up happy and healthy. Sincerely, Claire


  • Name: Claire
    Date posted: 2008-11-22 11:22 AM
    Hometown: Grovetown, GA

    Comment:

    I am so happy for you. I think it is a brave thing to have a baby, especially when there are a lot of people out there who want to hurt you or call you names. I admire you and i hope that your beautiful baby girl grows up happy and healthy. Sincerely, Claire


  • Name: ragavendra
    Date posted: 2008-11-21 1:19 PM
    Hometown: california

    Comment:

    I think you do not want to care what other think about you ,rather to decide what you need. ---- ragavendra


  • Name: blade
    Date posted: 2008-11-21 12:52 AM
    Hometown: between dreams and reality

    Comment:

    Hey, I saw your special and wanted to say congratulations on your baby girl and on the second one on the way. You and Nancy have something really special, especially if you are doing this for her and yourself. Take care of yourself, Blessed be.


  • Name: Kasey
    Date posted: 2008-11-20 5:16 AM
    Hometown: Oceanside

    Comment:

    Congratulations Thomas and Nancy!!! I am watching the show about your new arrival ( a little late) and as a 7 month pregnant, and mother of a two year old little girl, I'm very happy for your family. Love is what makes a family, commitment and compasion for one another is what makes a family work. Best of luck to you!


  • Name: Linda
    Date posted: 2008-11-20 1:26 AM
    Hometown: Minneapolis

    Comment:

    I think what these people are doing is wrong. I wish everyone would STOP calling her a man, she's a WOMAN. Just because you have facial hair and no breasts, that doesn't make you a man, you still have the female internal organs so that makes you a FEMALE. I think the true wife should own up to the fact that she is a lesbian and I think they're marriage should be void. I feel sorry for the kids they are bringing into this world because they will be screwed up and confused. This couple and the whole situation is disgusting!!!!


  • Name: rae
    Date posted: 2008-11-19 10:32 PM
    Hometown: mississippi

    Comment:

    Congratulations, Thomas & Nancy. I'm watching your show on Discovery Health and am appalled at how evil people can be. I hope your little girl is healthy and well. Everyone has the freedom to choose how they want to live their life and you should have the same respect as anyone else.


  • Name: Evie Gibbs
    Date posted: 2008-11-19 10:25 PM
    Hometown: Sarasota FL

    Comment:

    You are an inspiration. I am so sorry you are getting so much hate over this! It has me in tears. I am so happy for you and your wife. Congratulations on pregnancy #2! you and your wonderful family are in my thoughts and prayer.


  • Name: cindi
    Date posted: 2008-11-19 6:02 PM
    Hometown: portland

    Comment:

    I love you so much thomas for being so brave and not caring what society thinks. You and your wife have made a wonderful baby regardless how it was made. You are truly inspartaional to many people. Most men beleive it or not would most likely trade places with you at any moment. This is most likely why most of them are being so cruel and saying that your baby does not belong on this earth which is not the case. You and your wife keep living your lives and hold you head up high and dont give a second thought to all the negative comments that are being produced throught the world.


  • Name: Myles
    Date posted: 2008-11-19 9:11 AM
    Hometown: Hohenwald

    Comment:

    Thomas is one of the Beautiful Ones. Love has found its way to Thomas and he is sharing it. May all the Higher Powers Smile on Thomas and his family. Always remember, "people" with little intelligence and smaller hearts always seem to use God as their reason to show their ignorance & hatred. It's the Beautiful Ones that give the World Hope & remind us that Love is still here all around us. Peace & Love to Thomas & Family Myles


  • Name: Ashley Stultz
    Date posted: 2008-11-19 12:28 AM
    Hometown: Eden, NC

    Comment:

    I think that anyone out here should just let this family be what they want to be. They just want to be a family like anyone else out here they just went about it different. If "she" feels better as a "he" then so be it. He's right when he says its a human right to reproduce. Now you men out there tell me that if you were able to you wouldnt carry your child if the love of your life couldnt carry? your wife, fiance, girlfriend? Im a mother of one and yes me and my fiance conceived the "usual" way...but when he feels that hes better as a he...dont discriminate because of the way he does things...it doesnt really matter that much because hes a good father and a great surrogate as he carried the first child and i hope everything goes well with the second child on the way


  • Name: Jessica
    Date posted: 2008-11-18 9:33 PM
    Hometown: Hammond

    Comment:

    I had made a comment about this story and the fact that Thomas is pregnant again on another website and as I am writing this I am watching the premier of their story on the discovery health channel Pregnant Man! And with my previous comment on that other site I feel awful knowing what I know now that Thomas' family totally turned against him cause she felt better as a man. Everyone does deserve happiness and Thomas and Nancy certinly have been dealing with a lot of shit from people. I mean for real I am very much against even the thought of wishing someone would abort a pregnancy or miscarry. But watching this show right now Thomas was saying that people kept telling I'm that they wish he would miscarry. That's an awful thing to say!


  • Name: Nicolle
    Date posted: 2008-11-18 9:19 PM
    Hometown: Kansas

    Comment:

    I think that you guys bringing this baby into the world is wonderful. The negative things that people say are stupid. My sister is a lesbian and she is dealing with trying to get our famliy to support her in her wedding next year, I support her one hundred percent, I support you and your wife one hudered percent your baby girl will be loved more then any baby. I wish you luck with the new life that you brought into the world. THANK YOU!!!


  • Name: Richard
    Date posted: 2008-11-18 12:08 PM
    Hometown: Sacramento

    Comment:

    Also saw the interview on 20/20 and the ones on Oprah and all I can say is KUDOS to you both for your courage and openness. People of this world just don't like grey. They want black and white because that's much easier to understand and accept. I obviously am not God but if I were to guess why he/she made us different (I'm gay) it would be to teach tolerance, acceptance and love for all, not just the "normal majority". When we as a people can stop putting on labels and seeing each other as fellow human beings and children of God, then we will find that Garden of Eden again. Good luck to you both!!


  • Name: Lulu
    Date posted: 2008-11-17 12:59 PM
    Hometown: New Smyrna Beach, FL

    Comment:

    I was also looking for a contact/webpage/blog for the Beatie Family but I could not find anything. I wanted to say that I was so sad to hear the hateful calls they get, how can people be so mean, how can people be so full of hate to even call a child monster? what a sad person you must be. I can only see in Thomas, Nancy & baby Susan a wonderful family filled with love & care for each other, I teach my kids to love & respect all because God created us all equal. Your story of the seahorse was so cute, I really had tears in my eyes through the entire interview, you are all so brave, BE PROUD, BE HAPPY! you all deserve it


  • Name: Kate
    Date posted: 2008-11-17 11:03 AM
    Hometown: DeSoto, Tx

    Comment:

    Thomas and Nancy, Thomas & Nancy, I was raised in a "straight" family where my parents fought and my dad was unfaithful for years. They finally resolved the ugly issues but I still have scares from those years. So, I don't understand why people want to judge you and Nancy for wanting to have a family and raise children in a positive and happy home with two parents who love each other dearly. Ignore the negative comments, especially the comments about what God wants regarding you giving birth. I'm a Christian and it's not our place to tell another individual what God wants....God has told us not to JUDGE! Susan is a beautiful baby and she looks like her daddy with those pretty eyes! I hope everything goes well with your 2nd pregnancy. Take care and I wish you and Nancy years of happiness and joy. Children are a blessing from God, regardless of how they arrive! Kate


  • Name: Nichole
    Date posted: 2008-11-16 6:39 PM
    Hometown: RockVill

    Comment:

    I believe there children will be fine. There children will probably be more loved then yours will buy your whole family.


  • Name: Chandler
    Date posted: 2008-11-16 6:02 PM
    Hometown: Austin

    Comment:

    Hello Thomas I have been terribly sick for three years I am fourteen. I am inspired my you. please email me at SG_rock13@hotmail.com.


  • Name: cory
    Date posted: 2008-11-16 1:44 PM
    Hometown: parsberg

    Comment:

    i don't know if the family will read this or not. but i believe that there is absolutely nothing wrong with what they did. they are happy and their children are going to be happy, the thing that will make them unhappy is all of the people in the world who are not open minded enough to accept what they have done. they have done nothing wrong, and honestly why do you judge them, you have no right. what they did was their personal decision to make, everybody should respect that.


  • Name: Linus T.
    Date posted: 2008-11-16 12:26 PM
    Hometown: Toronto

    Comment:

    "This is COMPLETELY and TOTALLY wrong.....going totally against God's will. Something very bad will come of this situation. I just feel so bad for the child." And you know this how? Seriously. What makes you think that God didn't want this and didn't put this into Thomas' life destiny? Do you seriously think that God makes mistakes? Please remember that the Path lead out for you isn't the same Path that God lays out for others. Be respectful of the Paths He's put forth for others. I think it's against God's will to challenge what God has decided as a Path for others.


  • Name: Sue
    Date posted: 2008-11-16 8:58 AM
    Hometown: Rainelle

    Comment:

    This is COMPLETELY and TOTALLY wrong.....going totally against God's will. Something very bad will come of this situation. I just feel so bad for the child.


  • Name: Brandy M
    Date posted: 2008-11-15 7:15 PM
    Hometown: Fresno Ca

    Comment:

    i just watchd a show i dnt kn ow the name of it but i seen that the guy was kinda making fun of what your doing! i think it is crazy but its a cool thing! i dnt see the problem with it people are jst mad bcuz they cnt do the same! a baby is a beautiful form of life and no one should ever stand in the way if a couple want a baby! screw whoever turnd their heads at you and your family! i wish you and yours the best and hope your daughter is a very heathly little girl!!! congratualations!!!


  • Name: Sherry Dybas
    Date posted: 2008-11-15 3:05 PM
    Hometown: Wheaton, IL

    Comment:

    Thomas, may God bless you and your beautiful family. I am so happy for you, I wish there were words appropriate to express this to you. I hope you and your growing family are forever happy and healthy. I'm sorry for all of the ignorance that has found its way to you. You know you deserve none of it. But God is trying to teach society a lesson through you and your amazing strength. He is trying to tell society that their ignorance will be the death of them. I am watching your taped interview with BW as I type, and I truly hope you read this and know that there's nothing wrong with you at all. Society has gone wrong. Keep following your heart and soul. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Love, Sherry


  • Name: jennifer cluff
    Date posted: 2008-11-15 2:11 PM
    Hometown: manchester, nh

    Comment:

    the reason I am jealous is sadly I am not fertile...we don't know why. You used a pet syringe! That just takes the cake...and twice! I can laugh and say well, dang, a man is more fertile than me!!! I have many times been envious of transgenders when they look better than me! If I could have my husband carry our child using his intact and fertile organs, you bet I would do it. I wish I could send you a card or something to add to that well wisher box...congratulations to the both of you!!!!


  • Name: Tina
    Date posted: 2008-11-15 2:08 PM
    Hometown: Alberta, Canada

    Comment:

    I watched Barbara Walters interview of Thomas and Nancy Beatie and was amazed by their candid bravery. I was annoyed with BW's hang ups and judmental snickety opinions on both programs. As an interviewer the job is to ask all questions without judgement. All I saw in this family was love, compassion, and a great sense of a clear future. The small minded, hypocritical, and judgmental should climb back under a rock. Human Rights are for everyone. No matter what race, religion, sexual preference or gender. Freedom and Justice for all !!! Ring any bells??? At a time in your countries proudest moment in history, electing Barack Obama as President and least proudest moment revoking rights to citizens within hours of eachother. Change is now. I thank Thomas and Nancy for sharing their story, being who they are and allowing others to do the same. They have many supporters. I am proudly one of them.


  • Name: jennifer cluff
    Date posted: 2008-11-15 2:00 PM
    Hometown: manchester, nh

    Comment:

    I also want to say that the reason I am jealous is that my hubby and I have tried to conceive and have failed. You used a pet syringe!!! I can laugh and say dang a man is more fertile than me...how ironic!!! Susan is lucky to have such loving and great parents and you two are so well rounded...for your wife...DNA does not make one a mommy and daddy, so all the people telling you that "biologically" you are not the mother, tell them to jump off a cliff!!!


  • Name: Jennifer Cluff
    Date posted: 2008-11-15 1:57 PM
    Hometown: Manchester, NH

    Comment:

    Last night I watched the Barbara Walters special and I wanted to so much find you and your wife and email you...I AM SO JEALOUS!!!! You guys don't need to listen to what the public tells you. First off, there are so many women out there who can't conceive and if their husband like you could carry the child, they would jump at the opportunity. You only did what was natural in your hearts. There are so many families out there who have children the conventional way and guess what? They suck at parenting. They should have never ever become parents. And, the fact that Susan has the both of you, well rounded stable individuals, she is so much luckier than many other children born to the conventional family.


  • Name: Linda
    Date posted: 2008-11-15 9:37 AM
    Hometown: West Palm Beach

    Comment:

    A family is what you make it. It doesn't have requirements. You both look so happy on the Barbara Walters show, and you can see the love you have for your child. Don't forget that biological is not the only family. Congratulations to you both on your new pregnancy!


  • Name: Andrea O.
    Date posted: 2008-11-15 2:35 AM
    Hometown: ontario/upland ca.

    Comment:

    continued comment....3rd piece. p.s. just a little note to any of you who think its wrong what this family is doing, it wasnt to long ago when race, religion, ethnicity, gender would play a role in what people thought was right and wrong with the world and i guess in some ways it still is but we live in a place now whereits ok to follow what ever religion you choose and marry who you wish, and live where you want and so forth, women can vote and blacks and asians and etc can live freely and jews can mary catholics and you can have more than one religion and all that good stuff. its called free will and god gave that to us all so embrace it and let others enjoy it as well. everyone is entitiled to their opinions and their happiness. but if you have nothing nice to say or share than dont bring everyone else down just because you cant be happy yourself. peace out and godbless you all.


  • Name: Andrea O.
    Date posted: 2008-11-15 2:33 AM
    Hometown: ontario/upland ca.

    Comment:

    coninued comment..... God made Thomas very special he was able to ba a man and give birth to his daughter. i wish all men could feel the joy of being pregnant, it sucks that women only get that feeling, and i know so many men , straight, gay, transgendered who would love the chance to have that feeling. To give birth to a child is a blessing from god and thomas is lucky enough to do that, he's giving his wife a wonderful gift and himself. Thomas and nancy you should be so proud, i know i am for you. i wish you both and your family the best of luck and many more blessings . god bless you all.


  • Name: Andrea O.
    Date posted: 2008-11-15 2:31 AM
    Hometown: ontario/upland ca.

    Comment:

    I think that Thomas and Nancy are the bravest people, i love that they share with the world thire own love and beautiful family. Im a women, i was born a women and still a women. Im married to a man and we have three beautiful boys and im so ordinary to some people but i too have a great love for my family and i too wish to share it with the world like thomas and nancy; but its thire story and love that really makes a difference, they give hope to those who are just like them, they are telling the world that " hey we are a family and we do love and we are happy, and you can be too". No one has the right to make them feel ashamed, God made us all very special and it would be ashame if he made us all the same.


  • Name: Anabel
    Date posted: 2008-11-15 1:34 AM
    Hometown: Berkeley, CA

    Comment:

    I cannot find any personal contact for you on-line but I hope that you can read this post. I am a heterosexual female (like it matters what our labels are) and I just wanted to say that you and your wife are wonderful. Please keep sharing your story and I hope someday gender, race, class, sexuality, and everything else won't matter. We love a person - not a gender, race, class, or sexuality! It is so sad to see people who are terribly negative toward a person for a trait that is relatively meaningless. Congratulations on your spot with Baba Wawa! We in the Gender and Women's Studies Department at UC Berkeley support you and loved hearing about your family last Spring in our health class.


  • Name: JAIME
    Date posted: 2008-11-15 1:34 AM
    Hometown: LOS ANGELES CA

    Comment:

    I ADMIRE THIS FAMILY SO MUCH!! I THINK THAT THEY DID A WONDERFUL THING AND I WISH THEM ALL TH3 BEST AND I HOPE THAT THEY CONTINUE TO DO WHATEVER THEY ARE DOING AND I HOPE THAT THEY JUST AS MUCH JOY WITH BABY #2 AS THEY DID WITH SUSAN.....


  • Name: Deborah Kaye Ross-Cole
    Date posted: 2008-11-15 12:19 AM
    Hometown: Auburn ME

    Comment:

    I just watched Barbara Walters & all I can say is, I wish every person on earth could share the intensity of love that is so apparent between the two of you!!! the fact that Nancy can nurse little Susan speaks volumes,in what God says is right & wrong. I just really love how so called christians take the bible and make it fit their idea of what God means..Baby Susan is lucky to have you as parents!!! There are so many children born the so called "normal" way that live lives pulled out of horror stories ie... little Nixmary Brown that died at the hands of her mother & stepfather in NY in 2006!!!!! So Tom & Nancy hold your heads high and love each other and screw what anyone says against you!!!! They are just jealous of the love you share!!! Good luck with your pregnancy there are alot of people in your corner!!!!


  • Name: Amber
    Date posted: 2008-11-15 12:16 AM
    Hometown: Scottsdale, AZ

    Comment:

    I am not reading prior comments beacause I can not believe the horrible things that people have said about this family. As a new mother of a 5 month old my heart goes out to these parents. I understand the love that you have for your child and can not imagine hearing such horrible things about myself or my husband as parents. I can see the love that they have for their child beaming from every pore on their bodies. Most children in the world can only dream of such love. So many children are mentally, physiacally, and sexually abused. These children will be loved and adored and taught to be strong and stand for your family. I commend their courage and wish them all the happieness in the world. May god bless their beautiful family and the love that is shared between them. Many children in the world could only DREAM of being so lucky!


  • Name: Amber
    Date posted: 2008-11-15 12:14 AM
    Hometown: Scottsdale, AZ

    Comment:

    I am not reading prior comments beacause I can not believe the horrible things that people have said about this family. As a new mother of a 5 month old my heart goes out to these parents. I understand the love that you have for your child and can not imagine hearing such horrible things about myself or my husband as parents. I can see the love that they have for their child beaming from every pore on their bodies. Most children in the world can only dream of such love. So many children are mentally, physiacally, and sexually abused. These children will be loved and adored and taught to be strong and stand for your family. I commend their courage and wish them all the happieness in the world. May god bless their beautiful family and the love that is shared between them. Many children in the world could only DREAM of being so lucky!


  • Name: H
    Date posted: 2008-11-15 12:14 AM
    Hometown: Utah

    Comment:

    I dont see a problem with this situation they have put themselves into. Everyone is intitled to love someone and have a baby if they want to. I give props to them for coming out and telling their story. He is pregnant again and I am proud and excited for them. That little girl they had is soo cute and adorable. I see nothing wrong with this. His wife couldnt have a baby and so he did it for there family-I would also do anything for my family if I had to.


  • Name: Bill
    Date posted: 2008-11-14 11:30 PM
    Hometown: Greenacres

    Comment:

    SSR-Thomas and his wife aren't treating you like an idiot. He admits he was born female, but lives as a man. Your comment about nod judging books by covers is hilarious. Not judging a book by its cover, but by the inside indicates looking at he HEART and MIND. But for your narrow-minded sake, lets do some math. His sex organs encompass less than 1/3 the volume of his body that his brain and heart do....if he is a man in his heart and mind, then I would greet him as a man. Just because he exercised his right to father a child using female reproductive organs he has doesn't mean he's less a man. He shows more bravery than 99% of the men I know!


  • Name: Bill
    Date posted: 2008-11-14 11:24 PM
    Hometown: Greenacres, FL

    Comment:

    I see a lot of comments about what Thomas "is" (male/female). I am a straight man, and I feel that people are totally missing the point. This is about the BEAUTY of a "non-traditional" family bringing a life into the world! Melanie, you should be ashamed of yourself. Being a trans individual, you should understand his feelings of who he is inside. Why should Thomas and his wife have to run from the press and all they know to have a happy life with their child (soon to be children)? Just because you may be embarrassed of your "self" doesn't mean that someone else should have to be.


  • Name: charity
    Date posted: 2008-11-14 11:12 PM
    Hometown: md

    Comment:

    and still watching the 20/20 show i see that Nancy is breastfeeding that is so awesome she was lactating i also breastfeed my son and i did my oldest 10 yrs ago and it is a undescribable bond best for the baby and blessing for your new one too


  • Name: Charity
    Date posted: 2008-11-14 11:00 PM
    Hometown: Maryland

    Comment:

    I used to think it was just a strange thing that people were choosing to be transgender and growing up christian it says in the bible man and women but to find out a few yrs ago my aunt was born both and who knew what to do yrs ago my grandmother had her have the operation with no ones knowlege and all her life she felt different like she wasnt a girl but looking in the mirror seeing a girl how would it feel to be trapped in a body not feeling you belonged and to watch the 20/20 special to hear the man say god doesnt make mistakes so what now what would he say to my aunt she was a mistake she was born but the docs decided what she should be how is that her fault she has emotional feeling of a male but god created her what can he say now a person is a person nomatter what color race or gender


  • Name: Bill
    Date posted: 2008-11-14 10:56 PM
    Hometown: Greenacres

    Comment:

    I watched the Barbara Walters special tonight, and was captivated by Thomas' story. I have 2 daughters of my own, and a 3rd on the way with my fiance, and believe that the act of bringing life into this world (no matter how "alternative" the family may seem to society) is a beautiful an amazing event. The first time I looked in my daughters' eyes, I learned what love REALLY was. I see absolutely no issue with this beautiful family, so long as it is full of love, respect and happiness. I am saddened for couples like this who end up dealing with narrow-minded bigots who think they have a right to tell others how they should live. Family is not made purely by "mom, dad, kid" configuration. Family is made by a feeling of love that ties people together. I wish this beautiful family many years of happiness and congratulate them on baby #2 on the way.


  • Name: Michelle
    Date posted: 2008-11-14 10:28 AM
    Hometown: Fort Worth, TX

    Comment:

    " Melanie Date posted: 2008-07-04 8:22 AM Hometown: England Comment: I'm a MtF, married to a FtM. We have 4 genetic children, two of which were born after our gender change had become inevitable. We have avoided the limelight completely, to the point of moving to another country to get away from anyone who used to know us. Our children grow up happy in a completely normal family. Neither my husband nor I show any signs of having been born the opposite sex, not in appearance, voice, or behavior. You hatemongers would be surprised, you may know a number of "such people" and have never known - nor will you, ever. Our two youngest children don't even know - why should they? Thomas, you should have avoided the press like the plague. You had your 5 minutes, but it will not make you happy. " Why would you hide the truth from your kids in shame????? It makes you seem as bad as the hatemongers. You don't have to tell the whole world, but your kids deserve to know.


  • Name: SRR
    Date posted: 2008-11-14 6:06 AM
    Hometown: Studio City

    Comment:

    - (continued) I get the whole wanting to have kids, being a trans, being in love & getting married, etc. But I don't think it's right to make us out to be idiots. We can't call ourselves whatever we deem just because externally we appear to be. I've been taught never to judge a book by it's cover & Thomas your cover doesn't represent your content. Bottom line - I can't dress for Halloween as a cop and claim to be one all year long just cuz i have the outfit to match. Lets be honest with yourself, and everyone else!


  • Name: SRR
    Date posted: 2008-11-14 6:05 AM
    Hometown: Studio City

    Comment:

    I'm all for not judging people & believing that people should just be (if/when they're not hurting anyone) I commend Thomas & Nancy for pursuing their dreams. I wish them well & may they have a beautiful, prosperous happy life. Now, with that said, I'm a very straight-out person & call things for what they are. Thomas you're a WOMAN - plain and simple. There's no denying. Just cuz U removed your breasts & got on testosterone injections (to develop man-like features) doesn't automatically make U a man. U still have the XX chromosomes, REPRODUCTIVE ORGANS & menstruate. Please don't insult our intelligence!


  • Name: chis
    Date posted: 2008-11-13 7:09 PM
    Hometown: Hometown,Illinois

    Comment:

    The media and everyone else need to quit calling HER the pregnant man. She is not a man by any stretch of the imagination. They had a baby great, but stop calling her a man it is not right


  • Name: Kirsten Fabi
    Date posted: 2008-11-13 11:26 AM
    Hometown: Pincourt

    Comment:

    Hi there. I am a mother of three girls with my loving husband. I just heard about the new pregnancy and am soooo happy for you. Your baby girl will be a great big sister, and I am sure, your love will only grow. I am so proud of you both for doing what is right for you both. I send you all of the acceptance, love, and kindness that you may not have received from others. You have a beautiful family and I wish you all of the love and happiness in the world. Good luck with the new pregnancy, and full of kisses to you all. Love Kirsten xoxoxo


  • Name: Belinda Steger
    Date posted: 2008-11-06 8:34 AM
    Hometown: New Orleans, La.

    Comment:

    Can't believe how cruel people are, wait- no, I can. Well I don't want to waist my time or my breath telling judgmental people what I think of them because I would be just like them...... Plus, I get to use all of my energy telling Tom and his wife congrats and hope to hear more happy good news in the future...


  • Name: R. Longford
    Date posted: 2008-10-08 9:29 PM
    Hometown: Vancouver, WA

    Comment:

    I believe all children are a gift and I believe all people should live their lives the way they want to. However I have to admit I feel pretty duped. The title, "Man Having a Baby" is very misleading. Imagine my disappointment when I discovered that the only thing Thomas did to go from woman to man was have his breasts cut off and take male hormone shots. I respect that Thomas wants to be a man and he can call himself whatever he wants. But biologically and genetically, Thomas is 100% female. The headlines are really really deceiving. But good luck to Thomas and Nancy and the new baby!


  • Name: K
    Date posted: 2008-09-26 5:18 PM
    Hometown: G

    Comment:

    I find it very disturbing that the most hatefull, evil, and treating comments come from people who claim they are Bible lovers. Where in the Bible does it say that is is our right to JUDGE anyone? Where does it say to spread hate and contempt to anyone or anything you do not understand? What about people that are born with both sex organs? Where are they in your small little world? I am truley sorry there are so many people like you in the world, ignorance is no excuse for some of the things that have been said on this site. And by the way Thomas said he had a breast reduction nothing that woud stop breast feeding, and his wife could breast feed, she has all the equipment. The breasts are not conected to the female organs. Also a Man born a Man can produce breast milk. Unfortunatly this family will have to deal with ignorant people like you forever. But they will do fine. They have love in their life.


  • Name: Marie
    Date posted: 2008-09-12 11:03 AM
    Hometown: Arlington, TX

    Comment:

    ...I don't think someone who is mentally and spiritually male would keep their internal female sex organs. If keeping them was only so that procreation would be possible, wouldn't you just save your eggs? Look to a surrogate? I don't know. A -man-, full on mental-emotional-spiritually male MAN would not consent to pregnancy just because he happened to have the right parts. That's a woman's job. Basically. All I'm saying, is.. Tom isn't your traditional TS. I still wish everyone babyluck, but .. pregnant man? I'd accept more from a man who had every last female part and was forced to pregnancy.


  • Name: Daniela
    Date posted: 2008-08-19 4:32 PM
    Hometown: Wherever happy

    Comment:

    I agree, it only matters that they love eachother....


  • Name: Elizabeth
    Date posted: 2008-07-27 7:25 PM
    Hometown: Somewhere California

    Comment:

    Those on here who talk about genders negatively are idiots. As long as the child has parents who love them there is nothing wrong and as long as love exists gender doesn't matter.


  • Name: cindy
    Date posted: 2008-07-26 1:02 PM
    Hometown: corona,ca

    Comment:

    I wonder if thomas uses the women or mens bathroom in public. I think he need help mentally, this poor little girl will be messed up for the rest of her life she will have to tell her friends that daddy was the one who gave birth to her, thats so so sad, we have enough problems in our world, this will just add to it more.


  • Name: Spanky
    Date posted: 2008-07-11 10:31 AM
    Hometown: Atlanta

    Comment:

    I see the molly-coddlers, johnny milktoasts and just plain asskissing politically correct buffoons are running rampant on this site. Look at Connies statement..."Thomas Beatie is a man because that is how he identifies." How silly. He is not a man. Any baby a man may have would be referred to as a TURD. Its a physical impossibility. Grow up you oversexed teenagers.


  • Name: Michelle
    Date posted: 2008-07-10 3:54 PM
    Hometown: Phoenix

    Comment:

    I'm surprised that you trust humanity enough to make it known that you are having a baby. You are brave for taking the initiative to step out and not be ashamed of your life choices. This encourages others (not just TG folk) to live their lives under their definitions of reality, not the masses' definition. Of course, in doing this you will encounter a lot of enraged people who not only want to but NEED to have a tightly defined reality to feel secure (i.e. certain highly intolerant fundementalists of any religion).


  • Name: Connie
    Date posted: 2008-07-09 3:10 PM
    Hometown: Montreal, Quebec, Canada

    Comment:

    It fascinates me how many Americans are completely intolerant and uneducated. Thomas Beatie is a man because that is how he identifies. I imagine for those who believe in a simplistic Christian narrative that hetero-normativity and gender-as-social-construct is hard to understand. But if you look historically, religious beliefs change and grow depending on social contexts, power relations, and economic realities. How amazing that so many Americans are unaware that Christianity is a temporal social construct! Good Luck, Thomas. Unfortunately, I think you are going to need it. BTW - My friend (an other transman) gave birth a few years ago and his baby is just divine. Move on up to Canada if things get too rough down south. There are many ignorant folks in Canada too, but at least you have the government on your side.


  • Name: Spanky
    Date posted: 2008-07-08 2:17 PM
    Hometown: Atlanat

    Comment:

    Utter nonsense and stupidity. A man cannot have a baby. Anyone who believes this tripe is living in denial butt once they feel the flames of hell fire on there perverted ass and Satan triple headed penis penetrating their anal sphincter they will then know Game on. You sick twisted freaks...burn in hell.


  • Name: Jaclyn
    Date posted: 2008-07-07 10:47 PM
    Hometown: Danvers

    Comment:

    Nadine (both of you unless it was the same person commenting twice) from TX, shut the hell up. Seriously. This couple I'm sure has had to hear this stupid little spiel many a time and yours means nothing. You pathetic god-fearing/loving christians are disgusting, honestly. Leave Thomas and Nancy alone. God does not exist. If he did, and supposedly "loved all his children" he would not have a problem with their decision. I think it is incredibly rude to assume that they will be bad parents and already are for wanting to have a child in their situation. You have no right whatsoever to make that assumption as you do not know either of them. They are not going to hell for their decision to have a child, as such a place is scientifically impossible. I wish Nancy and Thomas luck with their child and their future, and hope that they don't encounter any more people like you.


  • Name: JB Lo
    Date posted: 2008-07-07 10:17 AM
    Hometown: Johannesburg

    Comment:

    If you ever think about emigrating ... you will be more than welcome in my neighbourhood. We South Africans struggle to hear such good news stories and have them make huge headlines. Good luck with the little one ...


  • Name: Diana
    Date posted: 2008-07-04 10:29 AM
    Hometown: Canada

    Comment:

    She's a female. A woman. No matter what you do to change it, you're still going to be the person you came into this world as. I think it's sick that everyone wants to recognize her as a male and then give "him" praise for being a "male" who gave birth. It's an attack and an insult to women everywhere.


  • Name: Alberto
    Date posted: 2008-07-04 8:29 AM
    Hometown: Itly

    Comment:

    ONLY THE BRAVE... THE STUPID ONLY... FOR ME HE MUST'NT LIVE A LONG...


  • Name: Melanie
    Date posted: 2008-07-04 8:22 AM
    Hometown: England

    Comment:

    I'm a MtF, married to a FtM. We have 4 genetic children, two of which were born after our gender change had become inevitable. We have avoided the limelight completely, to the point of moving to another country to get away from anyone who used to know us. Our children grow up happy in a completely normal family. Neither my husband nor I show any signs of having been born the opposite sex, not in appearance, voice, or behavior. You hatemongers would be surprised, you may know a number of "such people" and have never known - nor will you, ever. Our two youngest children don't even know - why should they? Thomas, you should have avoided the press like the plague. You had your 5 minutes, but it will not make you happy.


  • Name: what??
    Date posted: 2008-07-04 12:29 AM
    Hometown: NYC

    Comment:

    Read the follow-up in a few years about the lawsuit facing the doctors who said the pregnancy will be fine. If the baby has complications down the line.. good luck doctors! Amazing and sad that there are so many doctors willing to take such risks to cater to the lack of esteem and insufficiency of people who are unhappy with themselves! In the pictures the beard still growing on the woman (Tracy/Thomas) pretending to be a man, who has been off the testosterone for many months since the start of pregnancy. This baby may have some serious physical/biological problems down the line.


  • Name: CL
    Date posted: 2008-07-04 12:04 AM
    Hometown: Vancouver

    Comment:

    Man give Birth is Awesome and i have tons of friend that is a Transgender and it is kool and it is Awesome


  • Name: Christina
    Date posted: 2008-07-03 7:29 PM
    Hometown: Lisbon

    Comment:

    I am appalled at the ignorance and hate of this world. The so called christians who spew hatered ...as if that would allure this couple to repent. You should be ashamed of yourselves. Christ is about love and mercies and grace! Thomas and Nancy only God can say what is wrong or right. I find it fascinating that science can create a man out of a womans body and vice versa. The love you two share to come to this agreement is a profound one. I bless you and your family with strength and courage to continue to share this moment. But please remember why you did this and the love for a child. Dont let fame and book deals sour your relationship. I pray that your families come to understand and accept what is done. I pray that your daughter grows up to be a courageous little girl who fights for peoples rights and has tremendous compassion and empathy. God Bless you all!


  • Name: Elizabeth Lanoie
    Date posted: 2008-07-03 4:36 PM
    Hometown: Maine

    Comment:

    Thomas may have a mans name a beard and a double masectomy but she still has female reproductive organs therefore she is not a MAN. Although i am very happy for the couple and their new addition and i wish them well.


  • Name: Nadine
    Date posted: 2008-07-02 6:03 PM
    Hometown: tx

    Comment:

    the future is written, if you will pick up a bible and read it you will see for yourself, it is not a fairytale, he is real you have heard the word now it's up to you to make the correct decision. This is not the right way, we all fall short but what do we do after we get up, brush yourselves off and start again. dont be angry just ask God for forgiveness. For god so love the world that he gave his only begotten son that whosoever Believeth in him will not perish but have Everlasting life. Just Believe. A child is precious innocent bundle of joy, she will be loved by many.


  • Name: asd
    Date posted: 2008-06-30 1:44 AM
    Hometown: das

    Comment:

    I don't care and besides. Where's the god? A: THERE IS NO GOD! that's just a fairy tale :D if it's or as you might say "He, Allmaighty" is real as santa claus or tooth fairy or even peter pan is realer than god :D


  • Name: Nadine
    Date posted: 2008-06-28 4:37 PM
    Hometown: tx

    Comment:

    THE DEVIL is awake and working overtime. QUIT working for him people. The end is drawing near Jesus is coming soon, See the signs. So call men want babies, NO NO NO. for 100% Women only. Your Creator is not happy, God Almighty, He loves his children NOT this decision.


  • Name: Nadine
    Date posted: 2008-06-28 4:17 PM
    Hometown: texas

    Comment:

    you couldnt have said it any better, you are correct. A man cannot have or make a baby, you kept your female organs, therefore you are still a woman who enjoys dressing like a man and taking drugs to appear to be a man, internally you are a lady, sorry, Mrs. Thumbs up to the doctors who will not address you as a man, you are not a man, you were created to be a woman and women bears children stop creating your own interpretation of pregnancy, if you're wrong you're just wrong, your child will be lost, confused and ridiculed by her peers, you have created a ugly world for your child with this decision, so far I can tell that you will be terrible parents, this is the life you're offering to this child, What is this world coming to, this is the devils work, repent or you will be going to hell.


  • Name: S.M. King
    Date posted: 2008-06-23 5:03 PM
    Hometown: Tucson, AZ

    Comment:

    Whether or not this is a "first," I am really interested in the fact that a positive, non-binaried story surrounding gender and biology is making news at all. For those of us making our own decisions about our bodies, it helps to know what our options will be. That said, if one of you lovely reporters (or anyone else, for that matter) has the opportunity to ask the brave men who are doing this whether their surgeries have impacted their ability to breast-feed, and if so, how they are handling that, I would probably not be the only person curious for that answer.


  • Name: bob
    Date posted: 2008-06-15 4:03 PM
    Hometown: crewe

    Comment:

    Americans are the craziest people on the planet - get over yourselves please!


  • Name: GRC
    Date posted: 2008-06-13 11:27 PM
    Hometown: Maryland

    Comment:

    \I'm also ftm - but I don't see where the "first pregnant man" bit came from, I know of at least 5 ftms who have gotten pregnant, some as long as 10 years ago. I wish you'd thought , though, of ftms who were considering it, and would have honestly been able to just look really oddly proportioned while pregnant, & will now be at risk of people having seen you on Oprah. I was beaten up once because I was ftm. I have been planning my own pregnancy for a couple of years - but where I live is not liberal enough to be ok with that unless I can be pretty stealth about it. I won't be able to walk down the street now without running a risk of people thinking I'm a pregnant transsexual. And that puts me in harm's way. I wish you'd thought about the impact your publicity seeking would have on other ftms who had planned to take advantage of the one lone benefit conferred upon us for being non-genetically male, since there is a host of social and physical limitations from it.


  • Name: Maricarmen
    Date posted: 2008-06-13 1:09 PM
    Hometown: Reading UK

    Comment:

    Only the advances of the biological sciences can produce these "events". I see nothing wrong with someone wanting to be of another sex to that she had been born with. But...we don't know if the insemination was done in the way a woman would have done it...or if the baby is going to be born through a normal cervix...(I guess caesarian would be the normal option in this case)....and then...would it not be "confusing" for the social life of the daugter to know she was engendered by his dad?. I can quite understand that the commentaries of so many people to this "unusual event" would cause some harm...but what can you expect...? This is a most "unnatural thing" to happen. Still if you both can take the bringing up of your daughter to a good conclussion without any psychological identity problems...why not? This is a XXI century story.


  • Name: FNP
    Date posted: 2008-06-10 11:02 PM
    Hometown: Ft. Lauderdale, FL

    Comment:

    It's great you have a wonderful relationship and that your going to start a family. However, you mislead people and seek "fame" you are not entitled to. Genetically you are a woman having a baby. Unfortunately, genetic men can't have babies. I don't see what all the fuss is about other than the fact that you are portraying yourself as a man but are really a woman. The story should read, "transgender man has a baby" not "man has a baby." People click on the story actually thinking a biological man got pregnant. When they see your story they get angry because your misleading them.


  • Name: Nan
    Date posted: 2008-06-10 2:49 AM
    Hometown: Redwood City

    Comment:

    I love children and the best thing I did was have children. I enjoy my children so much. I would do it all over again, too bad my husband doesn't want to. I'm so sorry to read the negative comments. They must have ego getting in the way. Best wishes and I hope your family lives a happy and healthy life.


  • Name: Darlene
    Date posted: 2008-06-09 11:00 PM
    Hometown: Ewa Beach, Hawaii

    Comment:

    I saw the Oprah show today and then came to read the article. Thank you for sharing your story and I am fascinated by your courage. I say good for you...you have a partner whom you love and you deserve to be happy just as any one does! Best of luck!


  • Name: Maribeth Saxton
    Date posted: 2008-06-09 9:19 PM
    Hometown: Boise, Idaho

    Comment:

    To Thomas and Nancy, May your life be filled with happiness and joy. I wish you the very best and I have a feeling that your daughter will be beautiful. She will have great parents and a wonderful family. Good Luck!!!


  • Name: Judy williams
    Date posted: 2008-06-09 9:07 PM
    Hometown: Lewiston,Maine

    Comment:

    I like the fact that you don't let anyone stop what you and your wife want to do. People don't like anything they can't control of that are different. Best wishs to you and your wife. sinserely Judy


  • Name: Shaman
    Date posted: 2008-06-09 9:06 PM
    Hometown: New York

    Comment:

    "We don't see things as they are, we see them as we are." (Anais Nin)


  • Name: Shirley McQuerter
    Date posted: 2008-06-09 8:10 PM
    Hometown: San Diego, CA

    Comment:

    I just happened to turn on Oprah & there the 2 of you were. My heart and prayers go out to you. I support you completely - emotionally and spiritually. I admire your strength and courage not only for the decision to bring your child into this world, but your willingness to share your view/personal experience within the public eye. Change only comes about when persons as yourselves make great sacrifices. Thank you for paving the way for those to follow. I have been told by some that a healing engergy within me is received by others, with your permission I will extend whatever abilities I possess to each of you and your newborn child; I send unconditional love to all of you & acknowledge that we are all one with and a true expression of ONENESS (all that is divine and perfect). Be patient, keep focused on your purpose and claim your joy now for what is to come. With love as your bases no one nor nothing can take that away. My heart is with you.


  • Name: anibas
    Date posted: 2008-06-09 8:06 PM
    Hometown: calgary

    Comment:

    This world is forever changing. I wish for the 2 of you peace, happiness and all the blessings God can bestow on your family. You are paving the way for others and making history. It might be difficult for some to wrap their heads around this one. I watched you on Oprah and was touched by how much the 2 of you love each other. Stand together, stay strong. The world has had many pioneers in it, people who shaped this world and took the giant leap. It will be difficult for you at times, but I am sure love and guidance will help you get through this. Your daughter will be very fortunate to have the love of 2 people, and have 2 big sisters. Go with God. Angels will protect you.


  • Name: Karen
    Date posted: 2008-06-09 7:32 PM
    Hometown: Concord. MI

    Comment:

    Thomas and Nancy, I applaud you and your love for each other. I am sad that you've received so much enmity from others. Your love for each other and lack of resentment toward those who have ostrisized you is a lesson to those who say you are wrong. Didn't our Lord say the great commandment is to love one another? So to honor Him, I support you and your family and your right to pursue happiness. I pray your daughter will be a blessing to you and your family. Karen


  • Name: Noah
    Date posted: 2008-06-09 6:15 PM
    Hometown: Palmdale CA

    Comment:

    Seriously Thomas is full of shit! "She" (I wont say he, because "he" is a she) is really a woman! I dont get the fact that someone can legally alter their sex gender and then say that your a pregnant man! Dude you were never a man! You can never be a man! I dont care how many changes you make! Its defiant and not natural in this world! Having balls and being someone is making the best of what your born with... and yet people make small changes everyday to feel better about themselves... and whos to say when even that goes to far? But altering your sex to be a man and then deciding to carry a baby is rediculous! What would be insane is if there was a man who was born an actual man and by some miracle and weirdness in nature he became pregnant! That would be intense... but dont act like thats you! Im sick of people in this world like you! I wish god could right now alter the world in a better way... cause thats a change that needs to happen!


  • Name: janet
    Date posted: 2008-06-09 2:59 PM
    Hometown: halifax

    Comment:

    I wish you all the best in your pregnancy and also congratulate both of you. I know you both will be excellent parents and great roll models for your little girl. God bless you all. Janet (Canada)


  • Name: Jamie
    Date posted: 2008-06-09 10:34 AM
    Hometown: Florida

    Comment:

    WOW !!! It was a few months ago when I heard the news and I got so upset about the way this reality was presented and twisted. Tonight, I recalled that around this days (1 more month) this baby girl is due and I decided to follow the story. I did not think I would encounter your story written by you. I am impressed about the beautiful way you and Nancy presented this "Labor of Love." I am also upset one more time about the way you and Nancy have been treated, it is not fair... it is just not right. I wish you, Nancy and the baby girl the best. I ask you to keep us inform once she arrives. I wish I could have my loving husband's baby, but we just cannot. Regards, Jamie


  • Name: Janet
    Date posted: 2008-06-09 5:55 AM
    Hometown: alaska

    Comment:

    WHY DO THESE ANGRY PEOPLE CARE HOW SOOMEONE ELSE HAS A BABY. i DON'T KNOW MY SELF BUT WASN'T THIS WRITTEN FOR A GAY/LESBIAN MAGAZINE? TO ME THAT WOULD MEAN THAT THOMAS EMOTIONALLY TO BE A MAN AND HAS CHANGED HIS APPEARNCE TO BE SO BUT HE IS NOT ARGUING BIOLOGY, HE KNOWS HIS DNA IS XX. HIS FAMILY DINAMICS WILL BE HE USUAL MOM & DAD THING BUT THE PREGNANCY AND BIRTH WILL BE UNIQUE. JUST LIKE ADOPTING OR THE FIRST SURROGATE. IF ALL OF YOU READ THIS ARTICLE YOU WOULD SEE THAT WHEN HE TALKS OF BEING THE FIRST PREGNANT MAN HE IS ONLY DESCRIBING THE EMOTIONAL REALITY OF THE SITUATION, BUT WHEN HE TALKS ABOUT HOW AND BIOLOGY HE SAYS HE KEPT HIS FEMALE REPRODUCTIVE ORGANS SO HE KNOWS HE STARTED OUT LIFE FEMALE AND IS NOT TRYING TO SCAM US BY HIDING IT. SCARED PEOPLE ARE LIKE ANIMALS THEY LASH OUT AT WHO EVER CATCHES THEIR ATTENTION.


  • Name: Jaisey
    Date posted: 2008-06-09 4:08 AM
    Hometown: Salem

    Comment:

    I totally agree with Kimberly Smith! Thomas, you are a pussy and you ain't got balls to be a man! Too bad you chopped your breasts off, cause now you don't have one of the most essential things that your baby will need--breast milk!! Stop calling yourself the first pregnant man cause you are just one of the thousands of biggest man-wannabes!!


  • Name: Sophie
    Date posted: 2008-06-08 11:39 AM
    Hometown: England

    Comment:

    I'm shocked by the hate-filled comments to this article. Well, OK, not surprised, but deeply saddened. As to the person who demanded a nude body shot of Thomas - how dare you? Why on earth do you think you have any right to see this man naked? Why does he have to prove himself to you? To Thomas and Nancy, I wish you both all the best and hope that your daughter will be happy and healthy.


  • Name: Kimberly Smith
    Date posted: 2008-06-07 9:10 PM
    Hometown: Atlanta, GA

    Comment:

    Thomas is NOT a man. He's PRETENDING. He's still genetically female. No matter how much surgery he has, how many hormones he takes, or how he "feels", he will always be female. Wow, talk about an inability to make a commitment. Pardon the pun, but he didn't have the balls when he "became a man" to remove the inner workings of his female body. He didn't have the guts to go all the way. It 's just a cosmetic change. In ten years or so, if he changes his mind and wants to live as a woman, he can go back. I think he needs to decide what he wants to be. If he wants to be a man, then be a man and live as a man. But jumping back over the fence to have a baby and foolishly call himself a "pregnant man?" What a bunch of hype! At this point, Thomas and his partner are fooling themselves. Anyone who buys into the claim of "a man having a baby" are as delusional as these two. I also wonder about the lure of fame and fortune. Got a book deal? How about a movie deal?


  • Name: Ray
    Date posted: 2008-06-05 8:56 PM
    Hometown: New York

    Comment:

    For education purposes, nature loves variety and our society does not. Therefore on behalf of Nature or God, what needs to be understood is to look upon transsexualism as a medical condition. It is a birth defect like any other and causes misery and suffering and lots of money to doctors, surgeons and therapists. People need to have more compassion and genetic scientists need to do more research in pre-natal birth defects.


  • Name: francesco calco
    Date posted: 2008-05-27 4:56 PM
    Hometown: olmsted falls, ohio -44138

    Comment:

    ---------------- - ------Viewing this photo in this article ---I do not see any enlargement of breasts --to supply the mother's- ( father's ?) milk. Has there been a photo shown of this "pregnant male" -naked--to show the "complete male"? I suppose a photo could be artistically enhanced--thus medical and scientific information needs to be posted confirming the conception by the female into the male---per transfer of sperm. ----------Why am I even commenting on this far-fetched story? Yet we hear and read about abnormal births of animal and human. Ah!--the clever manipulators of the gristmill.


  • Name: peter
    Date posted: 2008-05-23 8:06 PM
    Hometown: Gatineau

    Comment:

    diversity is the beauty that each and everyone has to offer the world. he has demonstrated that he's a transsexual man who"s only options are what he exercised to bear a child.that take courage to face opposition and the hatred that lives and breaths in some peoples lives. I appreciate his strength and his courage to bear life. And , to honour his body and to be proud of who he is.and, that is a transsexual man who giving life to the world. love comes in many different body types and who are we to judge love.


  • Name: Daniel
    Date posted: 2008-05-22 3:29 AM
    Hometown: Detroit

    Comment:

    Sick story guys! How can a man bear a child.It is absolute crabs.Stop looking and no attention pls.She is a women and she is bearing kids.It's natural.Oprah enough is enough,the money u made.Stop show casing all these loose and contribute for betterment of the humanity.To all the misled people called GAY community,want to tell u the fact don't live in illusion.Jesus loves u.come back to him and start beautiful life.Now wat u live is mess.


  • Name: fabio
    Date posted: 2008-05-21 5:21 AM
    Hometown: wien

    Comment:

    E' una cosa molto bella, perche' no. Ma viviamo in un mondo con molte paure del diverso. scusate che ho scritto in italiano. that is your life. is good, ciao


  • Name: Kimber
    Date posted: 2008-05-19 10:10 PM
    Hometown: Saint Paul

    Comment:

    Thomas is NOT A MAN!!!! Why is this such a shock to anyone? The fact that he has facial hair and no breasts does NOT make him a man! That describes half the female population anyway! Really. I'm happy for Thomas but for the world to be in shock and especially to say that this is the first pregnant man is simply and utterly false.


  • Name: Sue
    Date posted: 2008-05-19 2:15 AM
    Hometown: Perth Western Australia

    Comment:

    I saw the oprah show today in australia and I wish you the very best of luck..It's wonderful to see someone who really wants children intead of people who "just have them" I am 69 and am ready for the world to change


  • Name: Stephanie
    Date posted: 2008-05-19 12:43 AM
    Hometown: BC, Canada

    Comment:

    I watched you on Oprah today, and I want to commend your courage for revealing yourself to the world. I think that any child brought into the world with love is a blessing, regardless of if it is adopted, born to a woman, or born to a man. I hope that everything goes well and your daughter is born healthy into the world!


  • Name: Lynn Sanderson
    Date posted: 2008-05-18 11:21 PM
    Hometown: Auckland New Zealand

    Comment:

    I have just watched Thomas on oprah What really struck me was that Thomas is a beautiful human being His essence really shone thru Lucky Child ! is all I can add


  • Name: Aldo
    Date posted: 2008-05-15 4:25 PM
    Hometown: Iowa

    Comment:

    This is totally wrong, she is not a man, therefore she is not the first pregnant man, because she wanted to change her sex doesn't mean she is a man, in fact she is a woman trying to be a man, thats why she was pregnant, because she is a woman, men cannot be pregnant, obviously!. The person who wrote this article should edit it, and replace he and his for she and her. This is grammatically wrong.


  • Name: Alisen
    Date posted: 2008-05-14 3:13 PM
    Hometown: Chaska

    Comment:

    that is the most beautiful thing i have ever heard! this world is truley amazing if a guy can have a baby...even in special curcumstances i know, but it is truely a blessing! i wish them all the luck an love in the world and kudos to them for doing what is in thier hearts and not being afraid! Peace Love Unity and Respect!


  • Name: No name
    Date posted: 2008-05-13 5:54 PM
    Hometown: Israel

    Comment:

    Thomas hi have u ever read the MIDDLESEX book, u should read it. About ur story i guess it's not a big deal that a woman getts pregnant, cause inside u r a woman, u just changed that by taking medicine or having operations. Good luck Tracy (THOMAS) hope to see soon ur baby girl.


  • Name: Melissa
    Date posted: 2008-05-12 11:28 AM
    Hometown: baltimore

    Comment:

    Good luck, Thomas! I hope you don't get harassed about your situation.


  • Name: carol
    Date posted: 2008-05-12 10:24 AM
    Hometown: califor.

    Comment:

    you are sexually confused


  • Name: Aleasha
    Date posted: 2008-05-10 5:05 PM
    Hometown: Providence, RI

    Comment:

    Absolutely Brilliant! Congrats on your bundle of joy!


  • Name: Nicole
    Date posted: 2008-05-10 3:14 PM
    Hometown: Dubai

    Comment:

    Wow! I just watched this on Oprah and I'm amazed. I really hope they don't get targeted by the crazies and I wish them all a long and happy life together.


  • Name: Truth E. Ness
    Date posted: 2008-05-06
    Hometown: San Francisco

    Comment:

    I don't see the problem.


Back to top

Submit a comment for this story:

*Type your comment here (Required, 1000 characters max. HTML formatting and hyperlinks are NOT permitted.):

*Name (Required): 

*Hometown (Required): 

*E-mail address: (Required, but will not be displayed)

Is this comment for publication? 
Yes   No

Daytime phone number: (Required for print publication only and will not be displayed)

Please enter the words you see in the box, in order and separated by a space. Doing so helps prevent automated programs from abusing this service.

  

If you would like to submit a comment for posting, please fill out the form above. 

All comments submitted via this form are subject to posting or publication. (To send a private letter to an Advocate editor or writer, please use the e-mail button at the top of the page, or use snail mail.) If you would like your comment considered for publication in The Advocate magazine, please include your full name, your city of residence, and a phone number where you can be reached during business hours so that we can confirm your identity. Your e-mail address and telephone number are strictly confidential and will not be shared or used for any purpose other than to contact you about your comment.

See the Contact page for sending comments for reasons other than responding to Advocate editorial and news stories.

Please note that comments sent by fax or snail mail are unlikely to be posted, although they will be considered for publication along with all letters received via e-mail or via this Web page. Comments that chiefly concern Advocate.com content will be considered for posting only on the Web site. The Advocate reserves the right to edit submitted comments for grammar, spelling, obscenities, or libel; we will, however, do our best to preserve the original comment's style and intent. Comments considered for publication in The Advocate magazine may also be edited for length.

More Exclusives
  • View From the Hill: The End of DADT?
    Defense Secretary Robert Gates revealed that lawyers are exploring ways to ease enforcement of the military's gay ban, but cautioned that the law doesn't leave much wiggle room. He need look no further than DOD history for a lesson in altering the policy.
  • Hot Sheet: Week of July 5
    When you get back from that big 4th of July barbecue, unwind with Sacha Baron Cohen's Bruno and your favorite B-movie-mocking, basic cable robots.
  • Hungry Like the Wolf
    A master of viola, ukulele, piano, and harp, Patrick Wolf is a music prodigy -- one who, the night before this interview, spit on a cop and got himself arrested.
  • Soapside: Advocate's Guide to Daytime
    Forbes March talks about playing gay, Otalia fans outraged, update on One Life to Live’s Patricia Maurceri’s firing over gay plot point, Phillip Chancellor III big reveal, and Erica Kane goes to Africa.
  • The Faces of Federal Prop. 8
    With the federal challenge to Prop. 8 moving full speed ahead, Advocate.com sits down with the two couples named as plaintiffs in the suit.
  • Mommy, the Gays Are Coming
    After a year of advancements and celebration for gay and lesbian Colombians, the community takes to the streets of Bogota for the country's biggest pride ever.
  • The Pride of Antwerp
    Advocate.com hits the gay-friendly streets of Antwerp with openly gay police commissioner Serge Muyters.
  • Excerpt: Mean Little Deaf Queer
    In an excerpt from her humorous and harrowing new memoir, Mean Little Deaf Queer, Terry Galloway recalls her early childhood, describing feelings of ugliness, confusion about gender, and being one of the boys.
  • Top Political Blogs
    From Joe.My.God to The Daily Beast, Advocate.com spotlights a few of the best blogs that cover politics, inside and way outside the Beltway.
  • The Diva of French Television
    A hot young screenwriter who has made gay OK for millions of French viewers, Nicolas Mercier sips champagne, dons a feathered hat, and says he wants to see Colin Farrell and Jude Law go at it.