Gay People Have Been Taught to Be People-Pleasing Push-Overs
Our love and sex columnist offers advice on how to start making yourself priority number one.
MARCH 02 2019 5:56 PM
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Adam D. Blum
Ask Adam: Why Are Gays Obsessed With Being Perfect?
Our love and sex columnist on the pressure to be flawless.
APRIL 11 2018 4:31 AM
Ask Adam: The One Tried-and-True Rule of Open Relationships
Our love and sex columnist on navigating rules that leave everyone satisfied.
SEPTEMBER 30 2016 5:05 AM
Ask Adam: Does 'Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell' Work in Open Relationships?
Figuring out if honesty is truly the best policy.
JULY 20 2016 1:08 AM
Ask Adam: Is This All There Is?
Our advice columnist on what happens after you check off "career" and "partner" from your to-do list.
MARCH 01 2016 12:29 AM
Ask Adam: Am I Being a Selfish Boyfriend?
Our advice columnist, Adam Blum of San Francisco's Gay Therapy Center, says don't be ashamed to tell your partner you want him home more — and what you want him to do once he's there.
FEBRUARY 05 2016 6:07 AM
How Gay Hearts Can Beat the Valentine's Day Blues
Relationship expert Adam D. Blum gives advice to gay lonely hearts.
FEBRUARY 14 2020 2:31 PM
Why Do Hot Guys Make Me Feel Insecure?
Our love and sex columnist dives into those complicated feelings that intense beauty can stir up.
NOVEMBER 16 2018 10:00 AM
Ask Adam: Why Is My Boyfriend So Annoying?
Our love and sex columnist helps a couple understand the genesis of frustrating behavior.
FEBRUARY 09 2018 5:04 AM
The Gay Midlife Crisis: It’s a Thing
Our advice columnist Adam Blum shares tips on dealing with the fidgety 40s and 50s.
FEBRUARY 03 2017 12:52 AM
Ask Adam: Is It OK for Men to Be Needy?
Our love and sex columnist advises that dependency can be a good thing, in response to a reader who is anxious about his open relationship.
MAY 20 2016 5:21 AM
Ask Adam: Making Friends as a Gay Guy
Get ready to work, but the payoff is worth it.
FEBRUARY 16 2016 1:04 AM
Why Won't My Boyfriend Get Close to Me?
Our love and sex columnist Adam Blum on gays and intimacy reticence.
DECEMBER 18 2019 5:32 AM
Gay Men Seem So Busy and Stressed, Why Aren't Straight Men?
There may be a reason so many queer men cannot sit still for long, says our advice columnist, Adam Blum.
SEPTEMBER 06 2019 5:30 AM
Are Most Gay Men Lonely?
The short answer is yes, writes our love and sex columnist, psychotherapist Adam D. Blum.
OCTOBER 14 2018 8:32 AM
Is Testosterone Sabotaging Gay Relationships?
The male sex drive doesn't have to ruin a good thing, our love and sex columnist writes.
MARCH 17 2017 1:07 AM
Ask Adam: Do I Have to Come Out?
A young man questions the necessity of disclosure.
DECEMBER 02 2016 12:27 AM
Ask Adam: How Do I Stop Bickering With My Partner?
Those fights about laundry aren't always about dirty clothes, says our love and sex columnist.
AUGUST 19 2016 1:34 AM
Ask Adam: Why Am I Attracted to Younger Men?
Our advice columnist, Adam Blum of San Francisco's Gay Therapy Center, on the conflict over desire and personal objectives.
MARCH 25 2016 1:29 AM