Betty Berzon, the
revered lesbian activist, psychotherapist, and author
of several esteemed books on maintaining gay relationships,
challenging homophobia, and preserving self-esteem,
died on Tuesday. She was 78.
Berzon died of cancer at her home in Los
Angeles, with Terry DeCrescenzo, her partner of 33
years, by her side. She had been battling cancer for 20
years and, according to DeCrescenzo, was told in 1986 she
had less than two years to live.
"Betty said, 'Bring it
on,'" DeCrescenzo told Advocate.com.
Berzon's numerous works include the
best-selling Permanent Partners: Building Gay and Lesbian
Relationships That Last. Published in 1988, the book was one of
the first to advise gay couples on issues such
as financial burdens, legal difficulties, and having
children. Berzon served as editor of 1979's
Positively Gay: New Approaches to Gay and Lesbian Life, which has never gone out of print and
was expanded, updated, and revised in 2001.
Other works include The Intimacy Dance: A
Guide to Long-term Success in Gay and Lesbian Relationships; Setting Them Straight: You CAN Do Something About
Bigotry and Homophobia in Your Life; and Queer Blues: The Lesbian and Gay Guide
to Overcoming Depres sion.
Berzon wrote of her own dramatic struggle with
self-hatred in her Lambda Literary
Award-winning 2002 autobiography, Surviving
Madness: A Therapist's Own Story, which
chronicled her journey from suicidal psychiatric patient to
self-assured gay rights advocate and successful author.
According to DeCrescenzo, Berzon's
posthumous work includes her first novel, titled
Queer Babies. DeCrescenzo, who described
the book as a futuristic story about a researcher finding
the biological key to sexual orientation, said a
publisher is already attached to the project.
Berzon's community activism extended to
the Los Angeles Gay and Lesbian Center, where she
served as the first woman on the board of directors and
was instrumental in the center's design. She founded
Southern California Women for Understanding, a
nonprofit lesbian organization still in operation, in
1976, and served on the board of directors of the
Whitman-Radclyffe Foundation, a gay and lesbian drug and
alcohol recovery center in San Francisco. She served
on the board of directors of National Gay Rights
Advocates and was president of the Gay Academic Union.
DeCrescenzo said Berzon's legacy will be
her success in combining her tireless advocacy work
with her groundbreaking accomplishments as a therapist
and writer.
"Betty had enormous sensitivity to people
in our community that were caregivers. The most
important thing she did was to help people, from 1971,
when she came out as the first openly gay
psychotherapist," DeCrescenzo said.
"Betty always said, 'You can't go into
a relationship without having reconciled your own
self-esteem issues and your own embarrassment about
being gay.'"
Funeral services will be held at 11 a.m. Friday
at Pierce Brothers Westwood Village Memorial Park and
Mortuary in the Westwood section of Los Angeles. There
will be a celebration of life event on February 26 at
5 p.m. at the Omni Hotel in downtown Los Angeles. In lieu of
flowers, DeCrescenzo asked that donations be made to
Gay and Lesbian Adolescent Social Services or the
Lambda Literary Foundation. (Advocate.com)