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Details Dawn of the Ex Lesbian Decade

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Details magazine checks in with a story about one-time lesbians who now prefer to date men. Writer Ian Daly makes the provocative, some might say ridiculous, suggestion that as biological clocks prompt more and more women in their 30s to bear children, the so-called lesbian '90s will give way to a new "hasbian" decade.

"There are no reliable statistics by which to gauge how many refugees there are from the isle of Lesbos," writes Daly. "Nor could there be: Bisexual women, for instance, don't have to 'switch teams' to enter into relationships with men, even if they've lived with other women for decades. But if the hasbian (and for simplicity's sake, we'll include bisexuals who've shifted from women to men) really is having a coming-out moment, it might be because the lesbian had her big coming-out moment in the nineties -- the decade that saw Cindy Crawford shaving k.d. lang on the cover of Vanity Fair, the birth of Lilith Fair, and the mainstream popularity of lesbian-friendly folksingers like DiFranco, the Indigo Girls, and Dar Williams, not to mention a slew of literal 'coming-out moments' set off by Ellen's 'Yep, I'm gay' in 1997. Today, The L Word has come and gone, Katy Perry has qualified her confession about kissing a girl with 'I hope my boyfriend don't mind it,' and the tabloids are far more preoccupied with LiLo's dropout antics than with her sexuality -- just as we are more compelled by Rachel Maddow's intelligence than by her orientation. It's safe to say the novelty has faded. A woman who began her sexual exploration in the lesbian-leaning nineties would be in her thirties now. Is it unreasonable to suggest her biological clock could also affect her sexual proclivities?"

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